Do you notice that you have negative judgements about your child pop up in challenging parenting situations, such as when you are trying to engage their cooperation and they aren’t having a bar of it? Or when they are doing something that bothers you and they refuse to stop? They might be judgements about the … Continue reading A way to more understanding, empathy and compassion for our child
You probably already know that I’m a big fan of power reversal games for turning around challenging parenting situations! But did you know that this same kind of game can be really effective in inspiring kids to cooperate with those every day tasks that can sometimes become such a drag? Things like getting clothes or pyjamas on, … Continue reading Power reversal games to inspire cooperation with everyday tasks
Have you ever had the experience, when you’re going through a tough time with one of your kids, of finding it hard to connect with a real sense of warmth for them? I have! Being in a loving state helps us to respond to our child with kindness, empathy and support, calming whatever chaos might … Continue reading My top 11 hacks for falling back in love with your child
When kids’ behaviour becomes unenjoyable - they might be whinging, whining, demanding or making irritating noises, or they might be doing things they know you don't want them to do, or not doing things they know you would like them to do - it can often be a sign that their EMOTIONAL CUP is feeing … Continue reading Addressing off track behaviour by filling kids’ emotional cups – The “Love Cream” game
I wrote something recently about how to respond playfully if our kids tell us to “shut up”. You can read that one here: Responding playfully to being told to “Shut up!”: The ventriloquist game! And I had someone ask me if I had any suggestions for when kids’ use of harsh words goes beyond this, into … Continue reading What to do when kids’ swearing becomes an issue
All behaviour is communication, even if we’re not always sure what it’s communicating! Despite my years of connection-based parenting, I still sometimes forget this. And it came up twice for us last night! We were planning to watch a movie after dinner. Specifically, we were planning to watch the second half of a movie that … Continue reading Behaviour is communication: Understanding resistance and insistence
Does your child ever tell you to “shut up!”? Mine does. It doesn't happen often. But every now and then, when he’s upset, it will come out of his mouth. It’s a sign that he has some big feelings; he isn’t feeling heard, or he can't bear to hear what I’m trying to say (which … Continue reading Responding playfully to being told to “Shut up!”: The ventriloquist game!