Sometimes our kids’ “sticky” behaviours reflect something within us that needs to shift

Has your child ever had a puzzling behaviour that just won’t go away? A behaviour that keeps sticking around, no matter what strategies you try? One they keep repeating over and over, making you increasingly uncomfortable or perplexed? I call these “sticky” behaviours. Sometimes they can be an indication that something inside of US needs … Continue reading Sometimes our kids’ “sticky” behaviours reflect something within us that needs to shift

We’re on the move!

We are preparing for an(other) international move. There's a lot to do, with planning, preparations, etc. It’s taking up a lot of my time, energy and head space, and it's been a bit stressful at times. My boy’s been a bit “high” himself at times in the last few days. Acting generally hyped up, repeating … Continue reading We’re on the move!

Self-regulation is the single most important “parenting skill”

This, of course, can bring up a lot of questions!! 🤷‍♀️ What is this elusive “self-regulation”? 🤷‍♀️ What does it really look and feel like? 🤷‍♀️ How do I get me some of that? This is a topic that I am feeling excited to explore with you at the moment. I’ve been supporting parents for a number of … Continue reading Self-regulation is the single most important “parenting skill”

Why it’s easy for our nervous system to get “stuck” in an unsafe state

Did you know that the state of our autonomic nervous system is “self-reinforcing”. 🟢 This means that, if our nervous system is sensing safety, and our "social engagement" system is dominant, then we will continue to perceive more safety cues, keeping us in a “Safe & Social” state. 🔴 But, if our nervous system is … Continue reading Why it’s easy for our nervous system to get “stuck” in an unsafe state

How can we shift from “Fight or Flight” back to a peaceful and loving state?

As parents, there are lots of situations that might trigger us into “Fight or Flight”, ranging from feeling powerless to get our child’s cooperation, to feeling shocked when our child does something that hurts us physically. But we know that interacting with our kids in that state is not going to be helpful. It will … Continue reading How can we shift from “Fight or Flight” back to a peaceful and loving state?

Polyvagal theory and the autonomic states: Safe & Social, Fight or Flight, Shut Down

I find it fascinating learning more about the autonomic nervous system and how the state of it is unconsciously expressed through our face, body and voice. Did you know that, according to Stephen Porge’s Polyvagal theory, the human autonomic (automatic) nervous system has 3 branches that have evolved over time in animals: ➡️ Ventral (Front) Vagal … Continue reading Polyvagal theory and the autonomic states: Safe & Social, Fight or Flight, Shut Down