My child isn’t giving me a hard time. My child is having a hard time.

Sometimes, when my son’s behaviour is going off track, I find it helpful to remind myself that he isn’t intentionally giving me a hard time - he’s having a hard time himself. I particularly need this reminder when I’m feeling low on resources (e.g. I’m tired, sick, stressed, or just needing a break), and when … Continue reading My child isn’t giving me a hard time. My child is having a hard time.

Rethinking tickling

Sometimes it might seem like kids LOVE being TICKLED ... but do they really? Did you know that the laughter triggered by tickling is different to other types of laughter? It’s actually part of an INVOLUNTARY, AUTOMATIC RESPONSE. In fact, studies show that tickling activates the part of the brain that anticipates PAIN, and triggers … Continue reading Rethinking tickling

Feeling unappreciated? How playful exaggeration can help!

Do you sometimes feel unseen and unappreciated, for all the things - big and small - that you do for your children? Well, I think sometimes we need to give ourselves the acknowledgement and appreciation that we are wanting! We need to BE OUR OWN FAN CLUB!! And PLAYFUL EXAGGERATION can really come in handy … Continue reading Feeling unappreciated? How playful exaggeration can help!

Playfulness to repair when your child says, “I’m not listening to you!”

Has your child ever said, “I’m not listening to you!”? Maybe complete with hands over their ears, humming or singing to themselves, and turning away from you? It can be quite challenging for us parents to hear! Our feelings might range from mildly frustrated to completely infuriated. It can trigger a sense of powerlessness in … Continue reading Playfulness to repair when your child says, “I’m not listening to you!”

Boredom and how to give kids the fuel they need to make their own fun!

These days, a lot of children’s lives, both in school and in outside of school activities, is very structured. Periods of unstructured time are really important for kids, giving them the freedom to do what they want.  But sometimes, it is not that easy. Sometimes, “boredom” takes hold. 👉 When left to their own devices, kids sometimes become … Continue reading Boredom and how to give kids the fuel they need to make their own fun!

What is the real reason behind kids’ lack of cooperation – and how to support them to cooperate more!

We’ve asked our child TO DO something (e.g. tidy up), or NOT TO DO something (e.g. not throw food on the floor), and they seemingly ignore us or wilfully defy us. Why? As I mentioned in my last post, we might have judgements come up in these situations, that we feel "explain" our child's behaviour … Continue reading What is the real reason behind kids’ lack of cooperation – and how to support them to cooperate more!