I was feeling a bit off all day yesterday and I just couldn’t quite get to the bottom of it. A few other people seemed to be a bit off kilter too, and there was some talk that maybe it was something in the stars.
By the time hubby came home, I was just plain irritable and my parenting was suffering greatly! He asked me what was going on, offered to listen to me and suggested that I go and take a walk. But I was too far in it to respond positively to his supportive gestures.
Finally, I plopped myself down on the sofa, being all grumpy. I grabbed a nerf gun and started shooting it into the kitchen where hubby was. I complained when I had no nerf bullets left and hubby playfully brought me some more.
Then hubby offered me his wiggling butt as a target for my nerf gun practice, and this finally helped me to laugh, offload some tension and feel more relaxed and connected again. (I love how he is joining me more in play lately!) I got through bedtime without further incident!
I was hoping I might wake up this morning feeling clearer and more connected with myself, and to some extent I did. But there was still something niggling, some underlying feelings hanging around. At least now I was feeling comfortable enough to share what was going on for me.
It only took a couple of minutes of me being willing to speak from my heart and my hubby being willing to listen, for me to get really clear about how I was feeling and what the feelings were about.
After yesterday’s all day funk, I was amazed at how quickly and easily I could get to the bottom of it this morning, and how having the presence of a supportive listener helped me to connect with that part of myself that, deep down, knew exactly what was bothering me.
Unfortunately, I didn’t have more than a couple of minutes listening time this morning. Hubby needed to leave for work, and he had a couple of things he needed to get off his chest before he left too!
So I wasn’t able to go deeper into it with him, but it was enough to help me to feel clearer, more connected and back on track for my day. And the opportunity is there for me to listen more deeply to myself about this when I have some more time.
Do you have someone who is willing to listen as you talk and offload feelings with them? It’s taken me and my husband a number of years to get to this point. Before that I had listening partners, other mums who I exchanged listening time with on a regular basis.
If you’d like to know more, let me know in the comments!
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