So many things are CHANGING drastically at the moment, and we are being called on to adjust to NEW WAYS of doing almost everything in our lives! There is more UNCERTAINTY than ever, and there are lots of BIG FEELINGS - fear, anger, grief - up for most of us. Many of us parents are … Continue reading You don’t need to do this alone …
😰 Chronic stress occurs when our body detects a threat and doesn’t return to a sense of safety. 😰 It means our “Fight or Flight” response stays switched on. 😰 This results in our body being constantly flooded with stress hormones. 😰 Over the longer term, this can suppress our immune system. 😰 Which can result in us being more … Continue reading Stress-busting ideas to curb coronavirus stress
Driving home from the supermarket today, I noticed myself being a bit snappy with my son. It took me a second to realise that the shopping trip had left me a bit rattled. I noticed my breathing was shallow, my heart was beating faster, and I felt a bit tense around my shoulders. I’d gone … Continue reading Are coronavirus fears leaking out in your parenting?
As parents, there are lots of situations that might trigger us into “Fight or Flight”, ranging from feeling powerless to get our child’s cooperation, to feeling shocked when our child does something that hurts us physically. But we know that interacting with our kids in that state is not going to be helpful. It will … Continue reading How can we shift from “Fight or Flight” back to a peaceful and loving state?
I had a few people contact me about my last post on co-regulation, so I'm responding to some of their questions in this post. In case you didn't see that post, I talked about co-regulation, and how it is a child’s repeated experiences with an adult who feels safe and has the "Social Engagement" branch … Continue reading More on co-regulation
Do you sometimes feel unseen and unappreciated, for all the things - big and small - that you do for your children? Well, I think sometimes we need to give ourselves the acknowledgement and appreciation that we are wanting! We need to BE OUR OWN FAN CLUB!! And PLAYFUL EXAGGERATION can really come in handy … Continue reading Feeling unappreciated? How playful exaggeration can help!
Have you ever had the experience, when you’re going through a tough time with one of your kids, of finding it hard to connect with a real sense of warmth for them? Being in a loving state helps us to respond to our child with kindness, empathy and support, calming whatever chaos might be going … Continue reading My top 11 hacks for falling back in love with your child
In my last post, I explored the “7 PM sillies”, the phenomenon where kids become more active and silly, usually around an hour or so before bedtime! I talked about how, at this time of day, our children most likely have needs for connection with us, to offload stress/tension from the day, for physical activity … Continue reading What to do when you don’t feel like playing
Putting together my own observations and experiences, and what I know about the nervous system, I’d like to outline my understanding of what is going on when children lash out, how responding playfully can help, and why it can be so challenging for parents. WHY DO KIDS LASH OUT? When kids are lashing out, their nervous … Continue reading Kids’ aggression, responding playfully, and the challenge for parents
Lately, I've been re-reminded (again!) of how important it is to be meeting the whole spectrum of my deeper needs, and all the flow on effects it can have to my family. I have been having lots of ideas and inspiration, and expressing myself more in my business. And this has been helping me to … Continue reading The flow on effects of meeting our own deeper needs