Have you ever had your child tell you to “Go away!” when they're upset, and you’re trying to listen to and support them as they move through their big feelings? It can sometimes be hard not to take this personally, but it is more helpful to take it as our child’s best way of communicating … Continue reading Finding the “just right” position when listening to our child’s feelings
We all know that spending even 5-10 minutes of dedicated one-on-one time with our kids, letting them lead the play (sometimes called "special time"), can be so cup-filling for them, helping them to feel seen, heard, valued, and loved. Then why is it sometimes so difficult for us to achieve? Perhaps you tend to keep … Continue reading What to do when “special time” is hard!
I’ve posted before about how when our nervous system is in a "protective" state (Fight/Flight/Freeze), it tends to be “self-reinforcing”. That is, when our nervous system is already sensing threat, we have a tendency to perceive more things "going wrong", in our environment, in our relationships and internally in our bodies. This makes sense! If … Continue reading When you’re smiling, the whole world smiles with you …
Glimmers are the little things that "feel good" in our nervous system, the little bits of pleasure in our day. They are what help us to come back into a felt sense of safety, to our ventral vagal state of “Calm and Connected”. The sensation of sun on our body, our bare feet on the … Continue reading Tuning in to “goodness” supports our felt sense of safety
Most of us have had times when we've been more snappy or distracted with our kids than we would have liked, and we're wanting to help them to feel comfortable and connected with us again. A simple way to start the repair process is to notice the micro-moments of goodness in our day. It might … Continue reading It’s the little things …
So, yeah, I'm pretty excited that this is happening! You can find all the information by clicking on the image below: I've been wanting to create something like this for last year or so, since I started getting into polyvagal theory, self-reg, etc. It really feels like the "missing piece", for so many parents. And … Continue reading Rewire Through Regulation and Repair is here!
I got up this morning, knowing it had the potential to be a challenging morning. I needed to change our usual routine to get a few important things done, and I was expecting some resistance from my son. So I wanted to make sure that I was in the best state I could be in, … Continue reading Resourcing myself to prepare for a tricky time
Here's a strategy I think could be a particularly supportive in these stressful times, especially for those of us who are going to be in very close quarters with our loved ones for the foreseeable future! PLAYFUL EXAGGERATION can be a wonderful approach for expressing our emotions in a way that is non-threatening to others. … Continue reading A way to move through relationship tensions (especially in lockdown!)
When kids’ behaviour becomes unenjoyable - they might be whinging, whining, demanding or making irritating noises, or they might be doing things they know you don't want them to do, or not doing things they know you would like them to do - it can often be a sign that their EMOTIONAL CUP is feeing … Continue reading Addressing off track behaviour by filling kids’ emotional cups – The “Love Cream” game
I know it’s not a luxury that everyone has - a partner who comes home at the end of the day and can share the load (although sometimes after a long day of work my hubby is more tired than me!). But last night I made the most of it and went for “option z … Continue reading More power reversal play: The “force push”