Finding the “just right” position when listening to our child’s feelings

Have you ever had your child tell you to “Go away!” when they're upset, and you’re trying to listen to and support them as they move through their big feelings? It can sometimes be hard not to take this personally, but it is more helpful to take it as our child’s best way of communicating … Continue reading Finding the “just right” position when listening to our child’s feelings

What to do when “special time” is hard!

We all know that spending even 5-10 minutes of dedicated one-on-one time with our kids, letting them lead the play (sometimes called "special time"), can be so cup-filling for them, helping them to feel seen, heard, valued, and loved. Then why is it sometimes so difficult for us to achieve? Perhaps you tend to keep … Continue reading What to do when “special time” is hard!

When you’re smiling, the whole world smiles with you …

I’ve posted before about how when our nervous system is in a "protective" state (Fight/Flight/Freeze), it tends to be “self-reinforcing”. That is, when our nervous system is already sensing threat, we have a tendency to perceive more things "going wrong", in our environment, in our relationships and internally in our bodies. This makes sense! If … Continue reading When you’re smiling, the whole world smiles with you …

A way to move through relationship tensions (especially in lockdown!)

Here's a strategy I think could be a particularly supportive in these stressful times, especially for those of us who are going to be in very close quarters with our loved ones for the foreseeable future! PLAYFUL EXAGGERATION can be a wonderful approach for expressing our emotions in a way that is non-threatening to others. … Continue reading A way to move through relationship tensions (especially in lockdown!)

Addressing off track behaviour by filling kids’ emotional cups – The “Love Cream” game

When kids’ behaviour becomes unenjoyable - they might be whinging, whining, demanding or making irritating noises, or they might be doing things they know you don't want them to do, or not doing things they know you would like them to do - it can often be a sign that their EMOTIONAL CUP is feeing … Continue reading Addressing off track behaviour by filling kids’ emotional cups – The “Love Cream” game