It’s never too late!

A lot of parents go through periods where they feel like they’ve lost their way with their child. When a sense of stress, discomfort and disconnection has taken centre stage in the relationship with them. We might have guilt or fear from something that has happened earlier in our relationship with them, or we might … Continue reading It’s never too late!

Are you feeling ambivalent about your increase in freedom?

I notice myself feeling ambivalent today. Here in New Zealand, we’re moving back into alert-level 2, and life is starting to resemble pre Covid-19 again. Restrictions are gradually being dropped. There are opportunities now to see a small number of friends, to go out and do things that were normal before, like going to the … Continue reading Are you feeling ambivalent about your increase in freedom?

How can we shift from “Fight or Flight” back to a peaceful and loving state?

As parents, there are lots of situations that might trigger us into “Fight or Flight”, ranging from feeling powerless to get our child’s cooperation, to feeling shocked when our child does something that hurts us physically. But we know that interacting with our kids in that state is not going to be helpful. It will … Continue reading How can we shift from “Fight or Flight” back to a peaceful and loving state?