A lot of parents go through periods where they feel like they’ve lost their way with their child. When a sense of stress, discomfort and disconnection has taken centre stage in the relationship with them. We might have guilt or fear from something that has happened earlier in our relationship with them, or we might … Continue reading It’s never too late!
Self-compassion
Are you feeling ambivalent about your increase in freedom?
I notice myself feeling ambivalent today. Here in New Zealand, we’re moving back into alert-level 2, and life is starting to resemble pre Covid-19 again. Restrictions are gradually being dropped. There are opportunities now to see a small number of friends, to go out and do things that were normal before, like going to the … Continue reading Are you feeling ambivalent about your increase in freedom?
Are coronavirus fears leaking out in your parenting?
Driving home from the supermarket today, I noticed myself being a bit snappy with my son. It took me a second to realise that the shopping trip had left me a bit rattled. I noticed my breathing was shallow, my heart was beating faster, and I felt a bit tense around my shoulders. I’d gone … Continue reading Are coronavirus fears leaking out in your parenting?
How can we shift from “Fight or Flight” back to a peaceful and loving state?
As parents, there are lots of situations that might trigger us into “Fight or Flight”, ranging from feeling powerless to get our child’s cooperation, to feeling shocked when our child does something that hurts us physically. But we know that interacting with our kids in that state is not going to be helpful. It will … Continue reading How can we shift from “Fight or Flight” back to a peaceful and loving state?
More on co-regulation
I had a few people contact me about my last post on co-regulation, so I'm responding to some of their questions in this post. In case you didn't see that post, I talked about co-regulation, and how it is a child’s repeated experiences with an adult who feels safe and has the "Social Engagement" branch … Continue reading More on co-regulation
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