So many things are CHANGING drastically at the moment, and we are being called on to adjust to NEW WAYS of doing almost everything in our lives! There is more UNCERTAINTY than ever, and there are lots of BIG FEELINGS - fear, anger, grief - up for most of us. Many of us parents are … Continue reading You don’t need to do this alone …
With many families in isolation right now, I imagine that parents all around the world will be starting to feel STRETCHED to their limits. I want to share with you a strategy that I've found can be particularly helpful when I’ve "hit a wall"! 👉 PLAYFUL EXAGGERATION is a way of expressing our authentic feelings … Continue reading A parenting strategy for when we reach our limits
As parents, there are lots of situations that might trigger us into “Fight or Flight”, ranging from feeling powerless to get our child’s cooperation, to feeling shocked when our child does something that hurts us physically. But we know that interacting with our kids in that state is not going to be helpful. It will … Continue reading How can we shift from “Fight or Flight” back to a peaceful and loving state?
Do you sometimes find it hard in your family to fulfil everyone’s desires? To negotiate a way for each family member to get what they want? Perhaps you'd really like to do something together as a family, but another family member has some resistance to doing the thing you'd like to do, and doesn’t feel … Continue reading Making space for resistance in order to meet everyone’s needs
Have you ever had the experience, when you’re going through a tough time with one of your kids, of finding it hard to connect with a real sense of warmth for them? Being in a loving state helps us to respond to our child with kindness, empathy and support, calming whatever chaos might be going … Continue reading My top 11 hacks for falling back in love with your child
In my last post, I explored the phenomenon where kids become more active and silly, usually around an hour or so before bedtime! I talked about how, at this time of day, our children most likely have needs for connection with us, to offload stress/tension from the day, for physical activity and reassurance that we … Continue reading What to do when you don’t feel like playing
There seems to be a phenomenon where kids get ramped up in the evening, just when it’s time to start “winding down” and getting ready for bed. They might get super active, extra loud and silly, much to our dismay! They want to run around, they want jump, they want to play! They might do … Continue reading How play can help kids to feel calm, connected, reassured and ready for sleep!
Lately, I've been re-reminded (again!) of how important it is to be meeting the whole spectrum of my deeper needs, and all the flow on effects it can have to my family. I have been having lots of ideas and inspiration, and expressing myself more in my business. And this has been helping me to … Continue reading The flow on effects of meeting our own deeper needs
Most of us have habitual things we do in our daily lives that get in the way of us being truly present - with ourselves, our children and our partners (and any other people in our lives). Being present can be uncomfortable, and bring up a sense of vulnerability, especially if we have uncomfortable feelings … Continue reading Habitual patterns and finding mindful and fulfilling ways to meet our needs
Have you ever noticed how those situations in our lives that have the most "charge" for us, particularly in our relationships with our partners, children or other family members, are the most challenging ones to change? I'd like to share with you an example from my life. I used to have a lot of charge … Continue reading Lessening “charge” makes space for transformation!