It’s not (just) what we say, it’s how we say it (which is all about the nervous system)

I first came across Non-Violent Communication (NVC) in Marshall Rosenberg’s book that my then partner had picked up at the book shop. We were needing some support with our communication, and this one jumped out at him for some reason. Needless to say, it was too late for us. I kept the book when we … Continue reading It’s not (just) what we say, it’s how we say it (which is all about the nervous system)

Making space for resistance in order to meet everyone’s needs

Do you sometimes find it hard in your family to fulfil everyone’s desires? To negotiate a way for each family member to get what they want? Perhaps you'd really like to do something together as a family, but another family member has some resistance to doing the thing you'd like to do, and doesn’t feel … Continue reading Making space for resistance in order to meet everyone’s needs

What is the real reason behind kids’ lack of cooperation – and how to support them to cooperate more!

We’ve asked our child TO DO something (e.g. tidy up), or NOT TO DO something (e.g. not throw food on the floor), and they seemingly ignore us or wilfully defy us. Why? As I mentioned in my last post, we might have judgements come up in these situations, that we feel "explain" our child's behaviour … Continue reading What is the real reason behind kids’ lack of cooperation – and how to support them to cooperate more!

Playfulness helps adults to release stress and connect!

I am really enjoying incorporating more silliness and playfulness into my relationship. My husband says that he's noticed me bringing more lightness and humour into our relationship, particularly during stressful moments, since I went to my first laughter yoga class last year. He also says that he finds it very reassuring, almost a signal of … Continue reading Playfulness helps adults to release stress and connect!

Habitual patterns and finding mindful and fulfilling ways to meet our needs

Most of us have habitual things we do in our daily lives that get in the way of us being truly present - with ourselves, our children and our partners (and any other people in our lives). Being present can be uncomfortable, and bring up a sense of vulnerability, especially if we have uncomfortable feelings … Continue reading Habitual patterns and finding mindful and fulfilling ways to meet our needs

How reflecting on power helped with screen time struggles

After my 5 year old son discovered Minecraft eight months ago, screen time became very challenging. At one stage, we were having daily battles over screen time ending, with me setting a Loving Limit (something like, "I understand you really want to keep playing/watching, and it's time to finish now"), and him responding with hitting … Continue reading How reflecting on power helped with screen time struggles

The transformational power of being heard

One afternoon, my husband, Alex, and I were driving to pick up my 5 year old son from his grandmother’s house. Earlier, we’d been practising using Non-Violent Communication (a process of compassionate communication developed by psychologist, Marshall Rosenberg) to have a challenging conversation (about parenting!). As we drove, I was sharing with Alex how being truly … Continue reading The transformational power of being heard