What is the real reason behind kids’ lack of cooperation – and how to support them to cooperate more!

We’ve asked our child TO DO something (e.g. tidy up), or NOT TO DO something (e.g. not throw food on the floor), and they seemingly ignore us or wilfully defy us. Why? As I mentioned in my last post, we might have judgements come up in these situations, that we feel "explain" our child's behaviour … Continue reading What is the real reason behind kids’ lack of cooperation – and how to support them to cooperate more!

Responding playfully to kids’ aggressive urges with faux fighting

Can you sometimes see your child's aggression coming, but just don’t really know how to respond to stop it? Deep breathing might help to calm a child, but it can be pretty hard to encourage them to do it once a fight-or-flight response has been triggered! And resorting to yelling, threatening "consequences", or “time out” … Continue reading Responding playfully to kids’ aggressive urges with faux fighting

How reflecting on power helped with screen time struggles

After my 5 year old son discovered Minecraft eight months ago, screen time became very challenging. At one stage, we were having daily battles over screen time ending, with me setting a Loving Limit (something like, "I understand you really want to keep playing/watching, and it's time to finish now"), and him responding with hitting … Continue reading How reflecting on power helped with screen time struggles